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Relationships are really difficult. [Page 49]Another accusation of more recent date, perhaps even more insidious than the previous, charges the Mormons of pedophilia because of marriages with teenage brides.10 This [Page 50]slur has been aimed particularly against Joseph Smith in order to attack his claim to be a prophet of God. Not, Flunking Sainthood, July 5, 2011, accessed August 11, 2011, http://blog.beliefnet.com/flunkingsainthood/2011/07/my-polygamous-heaven-not.html. Married or widowed are okay. Plural marriage did not start nor end abruptly. I would imagine if a divorced man was called as Bishop that it would have had to be approvied by the First Presidency. Is that true? I thought he was joking. . [Have] concern for my children, especially Young Men and priesthood leaders. Most couples tried going to counseling to support orsave their marriage, but perhaps not to the degree we would expect: Note: The definition of what qualified as counseling support is unique for those surveyed and, in the course of the survey, seemed to be open to interpretation. Copy in possession of the author. No, Divorce currently disqualifies a man from becoming a Bishop, Stake President, Seventy, Apostle or Prophet. The time or times of such sacred education needs a little more explanation. Elder Scott's parents would later serve in the Washington DC Temple for many years, and Elder Scott served as an apostle until he passed away Septemeber 22, 2015. The children in that marriage joined the lawsuit and allege their stepfather abused them. Beyond an overall dislike for plural marriage expressed by those who had negative views, there were several factors that seemed to particularly distress them. 57. This book, which will help couples contemplating divorce and men and women who are working through divorce, offers guidance, ideas, comfort and gospel perspective for those struggling through the painful experience of divorce. Most definitely not true. Divorce disqualifies a Priesthood holder from even being a Bishop, let alone a General Authority. applepansy For more on this topic, check outFinding Wholeness and Happiness after Divorce. Children are most likely to adjust successfully to parental divorce when their mother and father are willing to put the happiness and stability of children ahead of their own hurt feelings. When he was 15 years old, Elder Baxter says he looked back on the challenges his family faced in his younger yearsalcoholism, divorce, povertyall of the things he couldn't change in his past and decided, "I will change the futurefor myself and for the children I will someday have. For example, a number of years ago I showed some important guests around the Family History Library and then the neighboring Museum of Church History and Art, both in Salt Lake City. "The train stopped, my mother went out and tried to get food," President Uchtdorf told KUTV. I worry that discomfort with the situation unnecessarily impacts many from engaging in providing needed support.. Then I will get a temple sealing. Throughout his life, Elder Oaks admired his mother's fortitude and ability to raise her children in the gospel. My unhappy family history will not be passed on" (Elder David S. Baxter, "Finding Hope in a Troubled Family," August 2015 New Era). Give me messages about strength and faith; help build my testimony., Have activities where all can be involved, regardless of marital status., Comments in classes should always also cover how the topic is relevant to those who are not in the ideal family situation.. And modern Bible translations NIV, ESV, and CSB do not translate Malachi 2:16 as God saying I hate divorce. What percent of marriages end in divorce? 41. 37. Even one soul lost over the now-unpracticed principle of plural marriage is too many. "It is intended that this requirement will help to re-emphasize the significance and sacredness of the temple marriage covenants. In fact, some have left the Church specifically because of this issue. Fortunately, most former spouses learn to cooperate for the benefit of their children. WebBecause of the beliefs that (1) celestial marriage is required for exaltation, and (2) that Jesus is exalted, some leaders of the LDS Church have hypothesized that Jesus must have been married, possibly to Mary Magdalene, Mary, sister If only married Michael Brissenden, The Mormon Moment, ABC.net, October 18, 2011, accessed October 19, 2011, http://www.abc.net.au/foreign/content/2011/s3342583.htm. It is not part of my testimony of the Church.49 Another respondent referred to the idea that plural marriage would extend into the eternities as nothing more than folk belief, which is very distressing, especially to women of faith, and many individuals of LDS background have left the Church over this and similar issues.50, In July 2011, Mormon author and blogger Jana Riess wrote about an e-mail she had received from a former Latter-day Saint woman who had eventually left the Church over several issues, including the persistence of polygamous theology among Mormons. Riess went on to explain, As for individual belief, Ive occasionally heard it taught from the pulpit (and Relief Societys lace-draped table) that heaven will be polygamous. Divorce was more prevalent in the early Church. He explained that he was not troubled by the knowledge as the Church was a restoration of all things. I believe there is a strong case that he once was, and my conclusion comes from Pauls words in 1 Corinthians 7:8-9. 5. For example, the Public Affairs Department of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has, over the years, issued a number of press releases explaining that the Church does not practice or allow plural marriage and has differentiated between the LDS Church and fundamentalist Mormons.25 There have also been comments by Church leaders. There is much to appreciate about the honesty and vulnerability of the responses that were shared. These are truly touching and delicate experiences that members of the Church endured as they divorced. You'll also like: How to Talk to Children About Temple Covenants After a Divorce So if you were born to your parents after they were sealed in the temple (born in the covenant) or were sealed to them in the temple yourself, you are still sealed to themboth of themeven after a divorce. This is particularly true if they have been faithful in Church activity and have prayed fervently for a resolution to marital problems. Elder Scott's father, who was not a member at the time, was particularly fond of his 2-year-old grandson and was heartbroken at his passing. 1. Even if the allotted time is not all you desire, make the visits positive and never say negative things to the children about their mother. Be patient and reach out yourself. Latter-day Saints should remember that while there are certainly non-members who want to attack, criticize, or simply make fun of the Churchs polygamous past, there are many who are genuinely curious and who mean neither harm nor insult. Those who experience a divorce need a lot of support from others to help manage those high levels of stress. A 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization. It is within this milieu of multifarious information and misinformation that modern members of the Church are placed. One faithful Latter-day Saint wrote of his in-laws learning of Joseph Smiths polyandry, My [Page 63]mother-in-laws eyes bulged out.44 One woman who found out about Smiths polyandrous marriages, combined with other issues regarding Joseph Smith and Mormonism, declared she was done, done and DONE!! The book discusses women and divorce, men and divorce, children and divorce, dating again, blended families, remarriage, marriage counseling, and so on. Joseph Smiths marriages to teenagers have increasingly become a stumbling block to faithful members. Let's try this: the First Presidency must approve of all people who are called as Bishop. A number of years later I was organizing a visit of some dignitaries to Salt Lake City. For more information regarding these post-Manifesto marriages, see Drew Briney, Apostles on Trial: Examining the Membership Trials of Apostles Taylor and Cowley (Salt Lake City: Hindsight Publications, 2012); B. Carmon Hardy, Solemn Covenant: The Mormon Polygamous Passage (Urbana: University of Illinois Press, 1992); and D. Michael Quinn, LDS Church Authority and New Plural Marriages, 18901904, Dialogue: A Journal of Mormon Thought 18/1 (Spring 1985): 9105. I never expected it, but it happened, and I accept it. But this experience also had a profound effect on Elder Cook and "any doubts he had were swept away forever.". 20. They did everything they could to raise us the right way" (Elder Jeffrey R. Holland, "Elder Quentin L. Cook: A Willing Heart and Mind", April 2008Ensign). (That doesn't mean the policy doesn't exist, but that I've never seen it). While some periods of separation are longer and uglier than others, a finality is almost always achieved. Joseph Smith married other mens wives while they were still married to their husbands, Mormon Think, accessed October 12, 2011, http://mormonthink.com/joseph-smith-polygamy.htm#other. President Dieter F. Uchtdorf was just 4 years old the first time his family fled their home, leaving everything behind. 29. True, many non-Mormons and even some members nervouslyor insensitivelyjoke about the plethora of plural wives in a suggestive way. If two men are available to be bishop and they are equally qualified in every way except one man is married and the other is not, you can expect the married man to receive the call. 46. 30. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saintss uncomfortable relationship with its polygamous past is much like the painful interim between when the parties have gone their separate ways but are not yet allowed to completely sever their ties. While there were a variety of ways people first learned about plural marriage, about 42% of respondents said they learned from their family.35. Meet the Apostles. Broadcasts Video Images Music Podcasts and Radio. 4. In their examination of the divorce rate within The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, using both civil and temple marriages combined, McClendon and Chadwick (2005) estimated that the current lifetime divorce rate for returned-missionary men to be approximately 12% and for returned-missionary women around 16%. Feelings About Plural Marriage. Over 230 of the respondents were born in Utah or the western United States. [Page 47]This essay will examine the uncomfortable relationship between The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and its polygamous past and the effect this discomfort has had on its members. You cannot paste images directly. Thirty-five percent of the sample (includes all religious affiliations) who had originally married civilly were either currently divorced or remarried. The prospect of polyandrous plural marriages seems particularly problematic. An acquaintance of mine, married in the temple 25 years ago, four children and an active member in the LDS church was recently divorced for having an They are not members of this Church. Men are less inclined to share their feelings, so they can be less likely to learn from their experience. . At the time, Elder Cook's father was a less-active member and thought Elder Cook's older brother, Joe, should pursue a career in the medical field instead of serving a mission. For example, one survey respondent wrote, The Church has done much to cover up that part of its history, and little to bring the truth into the light. Finding out Joseph Smith practiced was a shockas I had not learned this in Church. !45 Another womans exit letter from the Church had a series of accusatory questions including, Why did Smith marry and have sex with 11 women who were married to other men at the same time, some of whom he sent away on missions before marrying their wives? 2. I did know one who was released when he and his wife were separated. 14. For a more detailed discussion of anti-Mormon accusations and stereotyping, see Craig L. Foster, Victorian Pornographic Imagery in Anti-Mormon Literature, Journal of Mormon History 19/1 (Spring 1993): 11532; Old Themes and Stereotypes Never Die: The Unchanging Ways of Anti-Mormons, FAIR, 2003, accessed October 14, 2011, http://www.fairlds.org/FAIR_Conferences/2003_Unchanging_Ways_of_Anti-Mormons.html, and Craig L. Foster, Penny Tracts and Polemics: A Critical Analysis of Anti-Mormon Pamphleteering in Great Britain, 18371860 (Salt Lake City: Signature Books, 2003). Just do your best. As several respondents put it: Why do ward members seem to have such a hard time connecting with divorced members? However, Elder Baxter's family situation was still difficult. 52. Copy in authors possession. Converts reactions varied, and for some the concept was difficult to accept. For that matter, it may not even be as important to Saints residing in the eastern parts of Canada and the United States as it is to those residing in the western United States. By the time he was 22 years old, Elder Scott had not really considered serving a mission, until he metJeanene Watkins. The two senior members of the Quorum of the Twelve were not general authorities when they became apostles. Dr. Swinton says, Love them. 66. 49. The Church has done a good job of differentiating itself from its Fundamentalist relatives, particularly with renegade groups like the FLDS, who have exemplified the fact that while there are similarities, there are many more differences. Your Feelings About Mormon Polygamy., 50. 36. (You didn't see President Hinckley rushing off to get married after the death of his wife Marjorie, right?). but we called it celestial marriage (Salt Lake City: Signature Books, 2008); and Richard S. Van Wagoner, Mormon Polygamy: A History (Salt Lake City: Signature Books, 1986). You'll also like: How to Talk to Children About Temple Covenants After a Divorce. If you keep your covenants, your relationships in the next life will be fair and right. Divorce can be an ugly, painful experience that leaves all involved angry, confused, and embarrassed. Gordon B. Hinckley, What Are People Asking About Us? Ensign (November 1998): 70. They are in violation of the civil law. There were 400 respondents, with a little over half being male. Since the time of the Manifesto, there has been suspicion that Latter-day Saints still practice plural marriage.15 Rumors and stereotyping of secret Mormon polygamous marriages have continued to the present, as news commentators and political pundits alike misconstrue and misrepresent LDS history and doctrine. From the time of its introduction, plural marriage has been wrapped in controversy. Quite often, in spite of divorce, extended family members remain connected because of a common interest, such as children. When he was 5 years old, Elder Baxter's mother and father divorced. 42. Video Collections. Your Feelings About Mormon Polygamy.. A man may remarry after the death of his wife and not be disqualified from these callings. Foster, Like Two Crazy Aunts in the Attic., 31. : Latter-day Saint Ambivalence over Its Polygamous Past, in The Persistence of Polygamy, 88, and Lesson 31: Sealed . Many, when they saw me coming, would look the other way, one participant shared. The reasons for a divorce were many and varied. But for me, the most important revelation in this long ignored manuscript has to do with a foiled plot on Jesus and Mary the Magdalene's lives, about 13 years before the crucifixion. 56. Melissa Crabtree, Modern Mormon Misconceptions Linger, CBS 42, Birmingham, Alabama, September 26, 2011, accessed September 28, 2011, http://www.cbs42.com/content/localnews/story/Modern-Mormon-Misconceptions-Linger/9N3Lxvw0AUS0USwYKsQHig.cspx or http://www.clipsyndicate.com/video/play/2879871/modern_mormon_misconceptions_linger, accessed April 10, 2014. 53. for Time and for All Eternity in Doctrine and Covenants and Church History: Gospel Doctrine Teachers Manual, accessed February 14, 2014, https://churchofjesuschrist.org/manual/doctrine-and-covenants-and-Church-history-gospel-doctrine-teachers-manual/lesson-31-sealedfor-time-and-for-all-eternity?lang=eng. Its in the handbook. This shaken feeling can leave a divorced man uncomfortable with Church attendance, especially if he believes that others are assuming he has been unfaithful to his wife. Even more tragically, accidental discovery and/or inadequate teachings about the Churchs history and relationship to plural marriage have caused crises of faith which have alienated members of the Church and, in many cases, led to their eventual departure from the faith. This may make many more supportive of divorce when it happens outside the Church.. The depth of dismay occurs in part because of the negative publicity attending Warren Jeffss marriages to under-aged brides as well as modernitys changed concept of childhood and adulthood. Unfortunately, he believed me, and it took a little bit of explaining for him to finally believe I had been joking and that members of the LDS Church no longer practice plural marriage.18, Other members of the Church have recounted anecdotal evidence of the widespread perception of polygamy among mainstream Mormons. Hopefully these suggestions will help those who are troubled or discomforted about the Churchs legacy of plural marriage. To find out more about how Latter-day Saints experience divorce, I surveyed more than 1,000 active members who have been divorced or are currently going through the process. Stephen C. Taysom, A Uniform and Common Recollection: Joseph Smiths Legacy, Polygamy, and the Creation of Mormon Public Memory, 1852 2002, Dialogue: A Journal of Mormon Thought 35/3 (Fall 2002): 136. ok now i am confused can you be one of the twelve apostles if you have been divorced does it matter if you remarried, has there been any of the twelve apostles that have been divorced or could you be one of the twelve apostles if you have been divorced i want to make sure i am not misrepresenting the LDS position. Most definitely not true. 60. The practice suffered a slow, difficult death as the Church and its members came to terms with the demise of the practice and yet continued their efforts to keep what they regarded as a sacred principle alive. 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Ironically, Mary Elizabeth Rollins, who was mentioned above, was 16 when she married Adam Lightner, and yet critics have not condemned Lightner for marrying a teenager when he was 25. Men tend to be action oriented, so they may be less inclined to seek counseling and instead bury their feelings by working long hours or immersing themselves in a hobby. 27. By so doing, they will be able to help present and future members trump critics attempts at malicious manipulation. Elder Oaks's mother worked hard for her family and cultivated that same work ethic in her children. Ultimately, the hope for Saints who struggle emotionally and spiritually with plural marriage is that a better understanding of the history [Page 76]and doctrine of plural marriage will encourage greater faith and bring solace to the soul.

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